tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15233714914548796252024-03-04T22:59:27.828-08:00Launching Adult Children with Asperger's and High-Functioning AutismUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1523371491454879625.post-60854019761732943862016-02-11T00:00:00.006-08:002022-07-26T15:58:13.593-07:00Launching Adult Children: Guide for Parents Who Want to Promote Self-Reliance in Their "Special Needs" Son or Daughter<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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<b><span style="color: blue;">Your older teenager or young “adult child” isn’t sure what to do, and he is asking you for money every few days. How do you cut the purse strings and teach him to be independent?</span></b></div>
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Parents of teens with autism spectrum disorder face many problems that other parents do not. Time is running out for teaching their adolescent how to become an independent adult. As one mother put it, "There's so little time, yet so much left to do."</div>
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Parents face issues such as college preparation, vocational training, teaching independent living, and providing lifetime financial support for their child, if necessary. Meanwhile, their immature teenager on the autism spectrum is often indifferent – and even hostile – to these concerns.</div>
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As you were raising your child, you imagined how he would be when he grew up. Maybe you envisioned him going to college, learning a skilled traded, getting a good job, or beginning his own family. But now that (once clear) vision may be dashed. You may be grieving the loss of the child you <i>wish</i> you had.<br />
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<li><b><span style="color: #666666;">Is your child 17-years-old <i>chronologically</i>, but more like a 9-year-old <i>emotionally</i>?</span></b></li>
<li><b><span style="color: #666666;">Is your child now an adult – and still living at home doing NOTHING?!</span></b></li>
<li><b><span style="color: #666666;">Are you concerned that you will be taking care of this child <i>well into his 40s</i>?</span></b></li>
<li><b><span style="color: #666666;">Do you have serious doubts that your child will be able to “make it in life”?</span></b></li>
<li><b><span style="color: #666666;">Does the thought of him “living on his own” worry you beyond measure?</span></b></li>
<li><b><span style="color: #666666;">Is he more concerned with <i>video games</i> than getting a degree, learning a skill, finding a job, or dating?</span></b></li>
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Since 2010, the number of adult children with an autism spectrum disorder still living at home has tripled. Here are the top 4 factors contributing to this phenomenon:<br />
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1. <b><span style="color: #666666;">They Are Cautious or Clueless</span></b>— They are unsure how to discover their ideal career path. They approach college with a trial-and-error mindset only to find out that it is not what they expected. Some AS and HFA college students, for example those who had an all-consuming interest in video games, may see college as little more than a “ticket” to a job as a computer programmer. This student will likely face some rather serious adjustment issues when he discovers he must complete certain required classes unrelated to computer programming.<br />
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2. <b><span style="color: #666666;">They Are Unprepared</span></b>— They are overwhelmed or unmotivated to live independently. They would rather play it safe by occupying the family home, playing computer games and delivering pizza. Adult children on the spectrum don't move out because they've got it made! <br />
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3. <b><span style="color: #666666;">They Have Mounting Debt</span></b>— They have accumulated significant credit card debt, and moving back in with their parents is a way to pay it off.<br />
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4. <b><span style="color: #666666;">They Have Personal Problems</span></b>— They don't have effective life-coping skills, have failed relationships, are grieving some other loss, or wrestling with a challenging life event.<br />
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<span style="font-size: medium;"><b><span style="color: red;">How much longer are you willing to wait</span></b><br />
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Adolescence can be difficult whether or not your child has AS or HFA. In situations where they do, however, there are special challenges that differ depending on the child. Some parents find themselves dealing with a child who is a loner, who has few friends and focuses on one or more hobbies or preoccupations. This type of child may be independent in some ways, but lacks the maturity to truly be self-reliant in life (so far anyway).<br />
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<b>The idea of being independent can be frightening for teens on the spectrum – and equally scary for parents. This can be due to:</b></div>
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<li style="text-align: justify;"><b><span style="color: #666666;">needing extra care because of their condition in the early part of their life</span></b></li>
<li style="text-align: justify;"><b><span style="color: #666666;">parents wanting to protect their "special needs" child from negative experiences in the wider community</span></b></li>
<li style="text-align: justify;"><b><span style="color: #666666;">the understandable difficulty for parents to ‘let go’ of a child for whom they have given up a great deal and who they love unconditionally</span></b></li>
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Like all teenagers, the teenager with AS or HFA is harder to control and less likely to listen to his parents. He may be tired of parents nagging him to look people in their eyes, brush his teeth, and wake up on time for school. He may even hate school because he is dealing with social ostracism or academic failure.</div>
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As you prepare your adolescent for college, technical school, or the workforce, keep in mind that people with this disorder often do not understand how the “social world” operates. They have problems with the basics (e.g., handling criticism, controlling emotions, working with the public, taking college exams, showing up on time). However, this does not mean they cannot learn a trade, attend college, or hold down a job. Once they (a) develop some specific coping skills and (b) master certain aspects of education and/or employment, young adults on the autism spectrum are often able to perform just as efficiently as their “neurotypical” (i.e., non-autistic) counterparts.</div>
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Helping to prepare your teenager for life after high school is one of the most difficult tasks you'll have as a parent. Although it can be hard to imagine your baby as an adult, with the right approach, helping your teen make the transition into adulthood can be both <i>crisis-free</i> and <i>rewarding</i>.</div>
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<b>In <i>Launching Adult Children With Aspergers and HFA</i>, parents will learn everything they need to </b><b>know to help their adult child:</b><br />
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<li><b><span style="color: #666666;">Learn coping strategies needed to thrive</span></b></li>
<li><b><span style="color: #666666;">...and much more!</span></b></li>
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<span style="color: blue; font-size: medium;"><b>Now You Will Discover the Secrets to</b></span></div><div style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: blue; font-size: medium;"><b>Motivating the Unmotivated</b></span></div>
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Parents who use the methods outlined in the <b><i>Launching Adult Children With Aspergers</i></b> <b><i>and HFA </i></b>Guide can expect the following:<br />
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<li><b style="color: #666666;">dating and establishing romantic relationships</b></li>
<li><b style="color: #666666;">getting his driver’s license</b></li>
<li><b style="color: #666666;">getting his own home or apartment</b></li>
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An autism spectrum disorder is a lifelong condition, but AS and HFA teens and young adults can - and do - develop coping skills to “make it in life” and to function just as efficiently as their <i>neurotypical</i> counterparts.</div>
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<b><span style="color: #666666;">=> Most adults on the high-functioning end of the autism spectrum lead a fulfilling life professionally as well as personally.</span></b></div><div style="text-align: justify;"><b><span style="color: #666666;"><br /></span></b></div>
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<b><span style="color: #666666;">=> Most of them marry and have children.</span></b></div><div style="text-align: justify;"><b><span style="color: #666666;"><br /></span></b></div>
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<b>Now is the time to begin the process of promoting independence and self-reliance in your older child.</b> The longer you wait, the more difficult your job will be - and the less motivated your child will be to grow emotionally, socially, financially and vocationally.</div>
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Parents just want to protect their "special needs" children from anything that might harm them. So we reached out our arms and gathered them in. To some degree, we were "over-protective" or <i>took responsibility for them</i> so they could live as normally as possible. But these choices we made, as parents, carried consequences.</div>
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Even though our AS and HFA children may be in their late teens or early adulthood, they may still look to us to take responsibility, assist them financially, clean-up after them, and provide them free room and board.</div>
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When we shelter our children, or do what they can do for themselves, they become overly dependent. Worse, they don’t challenge themselves, develop self-confidence, or learn the life-coping skills to function out in the real world - on their own.</div>
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Learning self-reliance and independence can come early, or can come later in life. But it does not happen without your help. In this guide, you’ll learn how to foster the development of self-reliance in your child, how and when to let him do things on his own, what to do when he needs help, and what to do when things go wrong.</div>
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There's always an explanation: A 23-year-old AS or HFA college grad wants to hold out for the right job rather than jump into an underpaid makeshift position. Rents are inflated, so a 27-year-old daughter on the spectrum moving out of her boyfriend's apartment couldn't possibly afford a place of her own. With two bedrooms to spare, parents can re-house her -- right?</div>
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Whatever the reason, young adults on the autism spectrum are returning home -- or never leaving -- in increasing numbers (e.g., following graduation, the dissolution of a relationship, the loss of a job, etc.). They often live rent-free and subsidized, with no scheduled date for departure. </div>
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As parents, coming to terms with our adult child's limitations also means facing our own... In midlife, a central aspect of parents' identity is how our kids have turned out (i.e., what kind of adults they have become). The lives of grown kids constitute an important lens through which we judge ourselves and our accomplishments. It is through reconsidering their adult successes and failures that we seek, retroactively, to validate the kinds of parents we were and the responsible caring we provided. </div>
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It may be very difficult to move away from a job that wasn't done perfectly, especially parenting, but parenting skills were never designed to work for grown children. We need to define the limits of our relationships with them and our involvement in their problems, since those are the only limits we can set now. We need to find ways to stay in meaningful contact with them while we work through our own midlife tasks of coming to terms with our gains and losses, reconsolidating our identity, and reclaiming our lives now that we have reached the limits of our parental role. </div>
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What is called the "post-parental imperative" demands that we make sense of who and what matters when we return to the self we put aside to raise our kids. Because we've done that -- whether we think we flunked or passed parenting, it's over. We won't get another chance at it, which is the good as well as the bad news. Our job now is to come to terms with the choices we've made in our own lives, abandon some dreams and commit to fulfilling others, allow the silenced voices inside us to be heard, and make the most of the time that's left. We can do that - we must do that - regardless of whether our kids ever achieve what we still believe is their golden, unlimited potential. But that will only be possible if we start concentrating on our own lives while we're waiting for them to get lives of their own.</div>
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A rising chorus of psychologists and sociologists says parents simply aren't letting go when they ought to—not only impeding their child's adult independence, but also hampering their own post-parenting lives. In the absence of an acute crisis or devastating financial setback, the consensus is that moms and dads should look twice at the reasons they continue to shelter their grown offspring. If parents can get over the idea that they're not being "parent enough" or that their "special needs" children still "need" them, then they can get on with their new lives.</div>
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~ Mark Hutten, M.A.<br />
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“My Aspergers daughter has expressed an interest in going to USC when she graduates later this year, and she is working at McDonalds in the evenings 3 days a week. What a surprise to me, because just last month (before I had tried your techniques), she was only interested in watching movies and reading about all her Hollywood movie stars. What a difference a month makes! Thanks your wonderful advice. I wish we had this information last year.” ~ Rodney S.</div>
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“My Aspergers son is 20 going on 10 and is very ADHD too. We were beginning to believe he had a terminal case of laziness disease, and that he did not have a conscience. The first week was tough, we had to keep a "log" of consequences just to keep track, but we stuck to it and never got argument one; the change is DRAMATIC!!!! He is like a new person!!! He used to do nothing but hibernate in his room and tear apart electronic gadgets – then put them back together again. Now he is learning to be an electronic technician at Richmond Area Technical Vocational School. Thank you, Mark, for giving us some direction.” ~ Becca H.</div>
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“I think parents with adult children living at home will be amazed at how quickly these methods trigger behavior modification. After just one week, my cunning 24-year-old quickly understood exactly what the new expectations were. More importantly, he realized that discipline would be objectively and consistently dispensed if he did not follow through with these expectations, which were stipulated in a contract that we drafted. Great program. Please keep up the good work.” ~ Aden L.</div>
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“I believe teaching your older children how to recognize what they want and how to set goals to achieve what they want is the most valuable lesson you can give them to become successful in life. These skills are not taught enough in our schools today. The Launching Adult Children With Aspergers Guide is an absolute excellent ebook for parents who want to help their Aspergers teenagers begin to take responsibility for their own destiny.” ~ Karin G.</div>
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“It was great to be reminded of how important goal setting is - at any age! I found this guide not only inspiring, but a great opportunity for parents and older teens to work on goal setting together. My 18-year-old Aspergers daughter really enjoyed visiting various colleges that she was considering attending. Becoming familiar with the well-researched material before starting helped me to make the process flow. Thank you very much for this information.” ~ Julie B.</div>
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"Hi Mark - Hey, thank you sooo much for this information. You truly are THE expert. Before I found your guide, I tried very very hard to motivate my son to do something - anything - other than sit on the coach and watch TV. And it seemed the harder I tried, the lazier he got. But since we have been using your methods, he has obtained a driver's license, is working part time with his (much older) brother doing construction, and going part time to Ebbertts Technical Vocational School. You have been a life-saver!" ~ Heather M.</div>
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"I thought I had tried everything, and honestly I gave up! My husband and I were even considering building an extra room onto the house and turning it into an apartment for our 'almost 30-year-old' Aspergers son. We assumed we would be taking care of him for the rest of his life. But by the grace of God, we stumbled on your website, and out of a sense of desperation, immediately began using your approach. Amazingly, within about a 2 month period, our son found a job where he is getting paid to train as an appliance repairman. He really loves his work and has an incredible boss who has really taken our son under his wing. We are truly blessed by this whole experience. Thank you for your advice. We have really turned a corner now." ~ Sandy L.</div>
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"My child with Asperger Syndrome is only 16, but I wanted to get started early with helping him plan for his future. I really do not want to have an adult child living at home... still needing me to loan him money, do his laundry, pick up after him, and so on. So he has certain assignments based on the techniques in your book. This week, for example, he is to research online what types of careers are available in the Marine mammal field (he's fascinated with dolphins). Thanks for getting us started in the right direction Mark." ~ Ms. Shubert</div>
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